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The Watchful Shepherd
An Interview with Joe Femiani:
Founder of Watchful Shepherd
(September 18, 1998)



Meet Joe Femiani

Joe Femiani is a man who has dedicated his life to the service of others. Born in Richmond, VA, Joe grew up in the dynamic times of World War II where the constant fear of air raids, polio, and death by war was very real. Witnessing the pain that was around him as a young boy, Joe pledged to work to ease suffering. He attended college for a brief time but soon left when money ran out and went off to work. But his dreams of service stayed with him and he left the corporate world to set up the Watchful Shepherd, a program working with abused children to ensure their safety from domestic violence. With this Joe feels he has found a path that brings meaning to his life and allows him to help give a fighting chance to the children of the world. Read how Joe sees life as an adventure and how he finds giving to be the secret of successful living.

For more information on the Watchful Shepherd program, please pay a visit to their website at www.watchful.org.


Interview Excerpts

Working For Others
Dynamic Excellence
Success Is...
Friction
The Trolls
Million Children March
Life's Adventure
Taking Up The Fight


quoteI knew at an early age that I was going to serve man and eliminate as must pain as I could.

Working For Others

I knew at an early age that I was going to serve man and eliminate as must pain as I could. I guess it just formulated in my philosophy that I would not work for money. I would work for how many lives I could touch, starting with my family first and then from that point on my whole life and career would be focused on how I could make it better for others and not value my life on what my net worth was.

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quoteI can honestly tell you that in my adult life I've never been without. I always gave more than I had, but it always came back.

Dynamic Excellence

I left college because I couldn't afford to go. I had this "thing" where I wanted to serve people and a fear that I'm not succeeding. And now I don't have a college education. So I know I've got to work five times harder because I'm coming into the era where everybody's getting a degree. I'm married and I've got three kids and I'm 25 years old. So from that point on I took on multiple jobs, but I still have my eye on the hidden condition and where I can serve.

From the start I was excelling at what I did. But I have to tell you that one of the biggest contributors to my excelling were those dynamics that had occurred in the past growing up - coming from immigrants, and an immigrant mentality, and living with fear [of growing up in the shadow of World War II]. Fear became a great motivator. Rather than letting fear crush me, I used it as fuel. Then I began to realize too that for some reason I was, I don't know, touched by my creator; that the more bread I threw out on the water the more that came back to me. My philosophy was that I would give it up and it would come back. I think what's happened is that I've received because I've given it back with interest. I can honestly tell you that in my adult life I've never been without. I always gave more than I had, but it always came back.

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quote I think you have dead rich people who aren't really dead. Just dead in their shell.

Success Is...

I define success as how well you inhabit this earth and how much better you make it for the next person. That's success. What did you do with the endowments in your life? Did you spend it on yourself? I think the creator gives you so much. A lot of these people think they are self made. The get all wrapped up in themselves. If you're going to get wrapped up in owning the biggest home and having the big boats and so forth, to me you're like the Mexican jumping bean. You'll survive as long as you're in that shell and then you'll get so fat, you'll die in the shell. I think you have dead rich people who aren't really dead. Just dead in their shell. It's a philosophy. To me life's a philosophy.

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quoteThere's not anyone you can show me where friction hasn't allowed them the opportunity to shine. You have to look at friction positively.

Friction

Failures are very important. We take life too seriously. We take failures catastrophically. What's catastrophic about failing? Another little analogy, if you take a little coal and never apply any friction to it, it never shines or becomes a diamond. A human being is the same way, if you don't have friction, you won't be able to shine. There's not anyone you can show me where friction hasn't allowed them the opportunity to shine. You have to look at friction positively. If you look at it like, "Oh my God this is friction!" then you're going to get burnt and you're going to get abrasions. Or you can look at friction and say, "Hey this is going to help me shine!"

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quoteI study the human condition and it's my life's work, so I understand my own human condition.

The Trolls

I study the human condition and it's my life's work, so I understand my own human condition. If I'm under a lot of stress during the day, I may look at that beautiful woman who just walked in and fanaticize to escape the stress. If I'm not under stress, she could probably walk right by me and I wouldn't notice her. So it's the human condition that I'm totally involved in at all times. The problem with that is meeting the trolls. Trolls run you down. But then it gets to be a game. As I speak to audiences and so forth and they ask questions I'll think in my mind, "Oh there's that little troll and he or she is going to tell me I can't cross this bridge and I'm going to have to kick her ass." And that's normally what I'll do. I'll keep an eye on them and give them an answer. The worst thing you can do with a troll is hit them with their own game.

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quote We're more worried about economic status and whether or not the President is getting sex, meanwhile kids keep getting killed.

Million Children March

I was quoted in one of the newspapers that you could have a Million Children March. If you put a little gray hair piece and a little mustache on them and told all of those idiots down in Washington that they could vote. I guarantee you they'd get anything they wanted at least they'd have a vote. There's a Holocaust going on in this country today and it's the abuse of children and we're doing nothing about it. We're more worried about economic status and whether or not the President is getting sex, meanwhile kids keep getting killed.

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quoteYou could spend the rest of your life looking at your own belly button wondering where you came from and where you are going and to me if you do that you'll have a miserable life.

Life's Adventure

I think some people are too much into themselves and their possessions. They don't look at life as an adventure. If you don't look at life as an adventure, you're in big trouble. You could spend the rest of your life looking at your own belly button wondering where you came from and where you are going and to me if you do that you'll have a miserable life. A lot of us do it. The worse times in my life have been when I've spent too much time looking at my own belly button wondering where I came from and where I was going. There's so much excitement out there. A lot of people have this search for meaning and God and they get into this intellectualism bullshit. All we have to do is talk to somebody and get them out of isolation and you can find God. It doesn't take brain surgery. It really doesn't.

It's easy to become negative. All things occur for a reason. You can't go against evil if you've never been around it. Have I ever been anxious, depressed, a troll? You better believe it, but it's when you learn.

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quoteThere are plenty of battles out there, but the problem is, and I'm generalizing, your generation expects to take and have exactly what your parents have had, so you've become very materialistic.

Taking Up The Fight

If I were to talk to young people today, I would probably tell them that they should look at life as an adventure. In their determination of success, a big percentage of it should be how much better would this place have been for its inhabitants as a result of them being there, rather than a legacy left in a will. The biggest problem is that people don't get involved. You guys ought to start building these service organizations and serving mankind rather than thinking what should I do for me? Take people out of isolation. Fight the evil in the system that says children don't have any rights. There are plenty of battles out there, but the problem is, and I'm generalizing, your generation expects to take and have exactly what your parents have had, so you've become very materialistic. You think you haven't, but you really have.

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